My message to, "those some people."

What is worse? Having kids or not having kids? Owning a home or not owning a home? Pursuing a dream or not pursuing a dream? For a long time my answer to this question was; "For each his/her own." Turns out that is not the case. This world has three types of people; one who mind their business, some who let you mind your business and some who refuse to mind theirs and always want to mind your business. Does that make them bad? I do not know. Again it depends as to who that person is. Is it someone you want to mind your business or say do not mind them minding your business or is it someone who you hardly know and turns out to be a person who minds his/hers and everyone's business and in fact is extremely good at it. 

I am not saying anything all I am doing is wondering what is right and what is wrong. Just that I feel like this world, no matter how much it develops, will still have people who have enough time to think about others business along with theirs. Come to think of it these people can be excellent entrepreneurs. They can actually make a living out of it. They can track as to when a person should get married, when it is the right time for them to work and have kids and so on. 

I have made a new rule in my life to meet all kinds of people. Some crazy, some crazier and the rest that are the craziest. It makes life so much more colorful. I mean think about it. Had it not been for such people then I would not have subject to talk about with my husband. Gossip would be a rotten word in dictionary. They thrive on us the way we thrive on them. In someway it is mutual. Is not it?

My mistake as a desi woman in the USA was to break protocol most people follow. I chose to study and not work as soon as I landed on the soil of this country. And what's worse I chose to do MBA. Why?, because I am not an engineer. Then what about job without Green Card? Its hard to get finance jobs you see! No one sponsors H1 B for finance jobs!

Ok! these questions seem like I made a horrifying mistake by doing what I did. Maybe not that horrifying. Questions up there might be a little exaggerated and distorted. But  the question that pops up after reading the paragraph up above is Did I do something wrong? 

Maybe or maybe not! 

Ask me and I would say No. I know what I am doing. I am pursuing a childhood dream. Something that my life partner whole heartedly supports.  But as I mentioned for people who mind their business along with others  me pursuing higher education instead of having children or working is utter waste of time. The fact that I go to SCU and not UCB or Stanford, for them, is a ridiculous idea. And let me tell you that, these some people, are the ones who probably made it nowhere. 

Because so far I have come across so many Stanford and UCB grads who have nothing but appreciated my valor. Not that I would care if they did not but nevertheless. As they say empty vessels make the most noise. 

Honestly for me kids, home, travel are not a priority. Not at least right now. I am perfectly fine with sacrificing and stinging to pay for my education which is very expensive. Money will come. Higher education according to me; note again for me is always like a feather on a cap. US is one country that I love so much after India because hard work and education  in the US never goes unappreciated.  What I am doing is so very fulfilling that I know for sure that when on death bed I will have no regrets about having done MBA at SCU. It is indeed a dream come true for me just like being a home maker and having kids or working straight after under-grad is a dream come true for many.

Here is where I feel for each his/her own. 

Not that I am against anyone. My heartfelt message to the some people is. What you are doing is amazing. Probably you care too much about other people. 

But some day when you some people get time. Take a paper and a pen and write down what you have and what you do not. And also categorize them as to what will last with you forever, something that no one can take away from you or leave you. 

Believe me kids one day will grow up and like every bird fly away from their nest, Cars and houses will eventually wear out. Moreover many of these tangible things such as cars, vans, jewelry, and so on can get stolen. But education is one thing that will be there for and with you forever. It will never leave you and what's better no one can steal it from you. It will be your biggest asset no matter how time and circumstances are. 

Now look at people who delay things and invest in that one wonderful asset that never depreciates but only appreciates, that opens ones mind, makes one knowledgeable, teaches one to respect oneself and others and finally to mind ones own business and not others unless they are paid for it. 

I know as humans we all want to help and teach others and live for the day where we can say."Hey, I told you so." Nothing wrong about that. But in the process what we forget is to ask whether the other person wants to hear what we have to say. 

Lets keep all this in mind; and try to become someone who is considerate; someone who provides opinion over someone who gives instructions and finally lets learn to respectfully disagree and not declare war on someone who does not agree with what we have to say. 

There have been times when I was  one of those some people. But guess what, I grew up. I grew up to understand that my business is the only thing that I should worry about and others business is something that they should worry about. I offer help and opinions to others sometimes when asked for and sometimes for free. If they take it wonderful and if they do not take it then i get their message loud and clear---"Please mind your own business." And that my friends I shall definitely  do.