I saw a preview of something called "Sister wives" a few days ago and it roused my curiosity. I ventured more into the matter and realized that it is a reality show about a polygamist somewhere in Utah. In the begining of the series the guy supposedly has three wives and towards the end of the season he takes on another wife. What makes it interesting is the fact that the guy has thirteen children from three wives and the fourth wife brings in an addition of three more children from her previous marriage. The three wives live within the same structure that contains seperate quarters with their own rooms and kitchen. The fourth wife for some reason ends up in a house near by to the husband and his three wives.
When I first saw the series I am ashamed but I should admit that the series fascinated me, totally. It was like getting a glimpse into another world something that does not exactly exist in the life and America I know. The aura of the husband is so mesmerising that at some point I wanted to practically vote in favor of polygamy. Until I saw him posing with his four wives and sixteen children. It was surreal. I mean come on who hasn't read the 19th wife and heard of mormons with multiple wives but to see it as a reality show is ludacris.
To begin with we live in this great country called America where everything is supposed to be hunky dory. And then you see a polygamist and you wonder what bit you so hard that your cry came out a squeal. When the polygamist was asked as to why he featured in the series he mentioned that he wanted to send a message to the world that they were there together as a loving normal family. The wives cooed in unison.
Let me tell you something polygamy is anything but normal. There is a reason why angry wives kill their husbands for cheating on them rather share their husband's penis with the other woman. And not all was well with the sister wives either. Anyone who witnessed the series saw that they were differences among the wife. Especially about the man taking another wife, choosing her dress, kissing her before wedding and god knows what?
Yeah of course who does not bicker. Women bicker all the time. But the big difference is that the women I bicker with are not my husband's wife. I am my husband's wife and will always be or atleast that's what I think. If by any chance I realize his grand plans to be a polygamist or cheat on me I will chop his balls off, deep fry them and feed it to the dogs. Let this blog be a testimony to my thoughts about polygamy.
I know he would never do that. Just the way I would never betray his trust. That is human nature. But the faith these women believe in tells them that entering polygamy guarantees them first calss suites in heaven. My brain cells fail to contemplate something so far into future. So the question is why is such a faith prevalent in today's world?
The 19th wife mentions how one man professed polygamy as ticket to paradise and ended up marrying over fifty women. Until Ann Eliza rebelled and stood up for her rights. In this land of educated and plenty why would someone want to do things that are hard for majority of us to understand? I mean there are a hundred things to worry about and sixteen children do not make life any easier. Think about the bills to foot, the quarrels to handle, the stress. I have heard men crib about one wife imagine having four of them, each with a baggage of their own.
Recently the family got into trouble because in the state of Utah a man cannot have more than one wife and suddenly the family appeared on TV and justified that he had but only one wife and the others were spiritual union. I hope not many men got to hear that for I am sure many men will surely want to have that kind of spiritual union with all kinds of women.
Its not like I have not seen polygamy in India. My grandfather had two wives and many children but it was then and it is now. Then there were things such as need of a male heir, getting daughter married to the same man as the first for lesser money and so on. But not many such problems exist any more and considering inflation it would be insane to have more than one wife unless each one of them had a real income that justified inflation. Which means they would have to work and working does not help pop and cradle innumerable babies whole life.
So how does this guy manage such a big family? Maybe someone should find the numbers out to understand his source of income. The discovery of which will benefit the research as to whether a man works harder to afford more women. However the appeal from the sister wives was very touching. They went,"Leave us alone!" Well ladies you chose to be on TV where millions of highly opinionated people who have nothing good to do and have access to social websites where they post comments to hurt others or pun will comment on you too. This is a price every celebrity or TV star pays in the long run. So quit whining and move on. Better stop portraying polygamy as the thing on TV. Maybe the faith works for you but the thought and idea is outrageous.
We talk about Taliban and how they ill-treat women and have many wives then how different is that from what is going on in this country? Polygamy of all things? Is it healthy for anyone to be showing polygamy when there are bigger problems in the country? Why are the laws so subtle when it comes to dealing with polygamy? Do these women realize the psychological impact of their lifestyle on their children? How do they feel when they see their mother is not the only one their father screws? What is the guarantee that these kids will not be someday obligated to follow their father's path? How would their daughter's feel to be treated as an object and not as a human?
There is an endless list of questions that needs answers and the best solution is to stop the broadcast of the series and better solution is for people to not watch it. There should be stricter laws with absolutely no loop hole that eradicate polygamy from the US.
Unless either of these happens polygamy will always be a subject of endless debate with protagonists of polygamy on one side and antagonists on the other. But something needs to be done before the world realizes about this ugly secret of America and laughs at it saying,"Did I hear you say Sister what?....."
When I first saw the series I am ashamed but I should admit that the series fascinated me, totally. It was like getting a glimpse into another world something that does not exactly exist in the life and America I know. The aura of the husband is so mesmerising that at some point I wanted to practically vote in favor of polygamy. Until I saw him posing with his four wives and sixteen children. It was surreal. I mean come on who hasn't read the 19th wife and heard of mormons with multiple wives but to see it as a reality show is ludacris.
To begin with we live in this great country called America where everything is supposed to be hunky dory. And then you see a polygamist and you wonder what bit you so hard that your cry came out a squeal. When the polygamist was asked as to why he featured in the series he mentioned that he wanted to send a message to the world that they were there together as a loving normal family. The wives cooed in unison.
Let me tell you something polygamy is anything but normal. There is a reason why angry wives kill their husbands for cheating on them rather share their husband's penis with the other woman. And not all was well with the sister wives either. Anyone who witnessed the series saw that they were differences among the wife. Especially about the man taking another wife, choosing her dress, kissing her before wedding and god knows what?
Yeah of course who does not bicker. Women bicker all the time. But the big difference is that the women I bicker with are not my husband's wife. I am my husband's wife and will always be or atleast that's what I think. If by any chance I realize his grand plans to be a polygamist or cheat on me I will chop his balls off, deep fry them and feed it to the dogs. Let this blog be a testimony to my thoughts about polygamy.
I know he would never do that. Just the way I would never betray his trust. That is human nature. But the faith these women believe in tells them that entering polygamy guarantees them first calss suites in heaven. My brain cells fail to contemplate something so far into future. So the question is why is such a faith prevalent in today's world?
The 19th wife mentions how one man professed polygamy as ticket to paradise and ended up marrying over fifty women. Until Ann Eliza rebelled and stood up for her rights. In this land of educated and plenty why would someone want to do things that are hard for majority of us to understand? I mean there are a hundred things to worry about and sixteen children do not make life any easier. Think about the bills to foot, the quarrels to handle, the stress. I have heard men crib about one wife imagine having four of them, each with a baggage of their own.
Recently the family got into trouble because in the state of Utah a man cannot have more than one wife and suddenly the family appeared on TV and justified that he had but only one wife and the others were spiritual union. I hope not many men got to hear that for I am sure many men will surely want to have that kind of spiritual union with all kinds of women.
Its not like I have not seen polygamy in India. My grandfather had two wives and many children but it was then and it is now. Then there were things such as need of a male heir, getting daughter married to the same man as the first for lesser money and so on. But not many such problems exist any more and considering inflation it would be insane to have more than one wife unless each one of them had a real income that justified inflation. Which means they would have to work and working does not help pop and cradle innumerable babies whole life.
So how does this guy manage such a big family? Maybe someone should find the numbers out to understand his source of income. The discovery of which will benefit the research as to whether a man works harder to afford more women. However the appeal from the sister wives was very touching. They went,"Leave us alone!" Well ladies you chose to be on TV where millions of highly opinionated people who have nothing good to do and have access to social websites where they post comments to hurt others or pun will comment on you too. This is a price every celebrity or TV star pays in the long run. So quit whining and move on. Better stop portraying polygamy as the thing on TV. Maybe the faith works for you but the thought and idea is outrageous.
We talk about Taliban and how they ill-treat women and have many wives then how different is that from what is going on in this country? Polygamy of all things? Is it healthy for anyone to be showing polygamy when there are bigger problems in the country? Why are the laws so subtle when it comes to dealing with polygamy? Do these women realize the psychological impact of their lifestyle on their children? How do they feel when they see their mother is not the only one their father screws? What is the guarantee that these kids will not be someday obligated to follow their father's path? How would their daughter's feel to be treated as an object and not as a human?
There is an endless list of questions that needs answers and the best solution is to stop the broadcast of the series and better solution is for people to not watch it. There should be stricter laws with absolutely no loop hole that eradicate polygamy from the US.
Unless either of these happens polygamy will always be a subject of endless debate with protagonists of polygamy on one side and antagonists on the other. But something needs to be done before the world realizes about this ugly secret of America and laughs at it saying,"Did I hear you say Sister what?....."
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